The Solar Flare Is Messing With My Electromagnetic Aura

December 14, 2006 at 10:34 pm (Attitude in Overdrive, Family, Nate)

Aren’t your fillings aching? Mine are. Then again, it could be TMJ. Seems much more romantic to be a by-product of a massive explosion of radiation millions of miles away.

I’m happy to report that Jeff and Danlel (Nate’s older sister), have mended their ways and are rebuilding their relationship. They went to counseling today and talked about their issues with a counselor present. I haven’t blogged about it much because its an issue with which I can see both sides and frankly, Jeff has been wearing me out with it. So much so, I haven’t had the energy to blog about it.

Regardless of how poorly I have spoken of him here, I also hope I’ve given the impression that when he’s sober he’s a damn fine father. He has his issues and I’ve not held back from my position, once again, in the middle of this fiasco, as to my opinion of his drinking alcohol while taking prescription medication. In that regard, I firmly took his daughter’s side that he can be a scary freak. In another regard I firmly took his side that, really peeps, if he did it ALL THE TIME, Nate wouldn’t be with him as much as he is. When he gets on a good one, he gets on a good one and I didn’t hold back about letting him know how I felt.

Actually, I yelled quite a bit at him and was brutally honest, in both directions. Good and bad. Honestly though, I have probably never felt more sorry for an individual in my life as I have him in the past three months. If I didn’t know that Danlel’s mother has had her hateful hand in all of this and pushes the negative, I wouldn’t have had as much sympathy. Again, I can see both sides and two innocent kids caught in the middle.

For his part, I think Jeff has had a lot of self-realization going on and I’ve counseled him to point of nausea and hatefulness to just fucking admit where you’re wrong and get on with it. Tonight he told me that he now realizes (let’s all cross our fingers) how detrimental his drinking is to his health and his relationships with the people around him, especially the most important people, his children. This has been extremely difficult on everyone involved but especially Jeff, Danlel, and Nate. The rest of us have orbited this situation, at times being sucked in, but mainly, not able to do much other than listen and counsel as needed or as I feel was needed.

In other words, opening my mouth and letting the truth out.

If anyone would care to have my brutally honest opinion about their problems, please feel free to contact me. I’m in the mood and the Force is strong with this one. I have to shed electricity somewhere. I’m gonna go shit some aurora borealis now. And remember, Thursday are always my most psychic days. Ta-ta.

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13 Comments

  1. Charmed said,

    Wow. Jeff’s been introspective? I’m in shock.

    As for asking your opinion… not today, I can’t handle the truth! lol.

  2. Seamus said,

    So…do you need a lock of hair and some navel lint to do this electro-magic??? 😉

  3. Serra said,

    Wish I were as successful in seeing some change in people I deal with. Good for you 🙂

  4. blackpunkin said,

    Charmed, I know, I hope no one passes out at their computer.

    Seamus, although the thought of examining your navel lint is intriguing and oddly arousing, a mere, “Hey, give some advice” will suffice.

    Serra, I’ve waited long enough for it although now I’m not sure I have the energy to enjoy it.

  5. Aimee said,

    (It’s true, Seamus–she’s advised me long-distance more than once).

    Hi Punkin! 🙂

  6. LisaBinDaCity said,

    I’m in a one of those moods too so take this for what it’s worth…

    I have an issue with someone saying ” Joe blow is so nice WHEN he’s not drinking. That’s not really HIM.” Well, actually yes, it IS him. As long as Jeff continues to drink to excess, (and puts his children through hell,) he sucks as a father. Period.

  7. Vince said,

    Realizing you have a problem and trying to fix it is a very adult thing to do. Let’s hope he’s sincere about it and really tries.

    Since you threw down the gauntlet, I’m going pick it up and throw it back.

    Tell my why the fuck I’m so pissed off all the time. It comes and goes, but I’ll wake up some days and be miserable all day. Or I’ll go from calm to flaming in moments.

    C’mon, I dare you.

  8. Jethro said,

    Here’s to hoping for the best, for everyone’s sake.

  9. Liz said,

    Hi there lady, it has been a while and wanted to stop by to wish you a happy holiday and a blessed 2007.

    I understand your burden with Jeff, as my daughter’s father has a terrible drug problem that I have often times thought, “when is he going to admit defeat and realize that his now 16 year old daughter doesn’t want much to do with him any more…” I’ve never said a bad word about him, she has made her own mind. She has told him how much she is hurt by his lack of self respect and the empty promises.

  10. Old Horsetail Snake said,

    Keep your auroras at home, Nanner. I don’t think I could handle it.

  11. Michael said,

    I thought you were always brutally honest with me. You mean it gets brutaller?!

  12. Lois Lane said,

    I’ve never heard of people shitting that before! Wow, what a talent 😉
    For whatever reason, your password and Katey’s will not stick into my head.Took me forever to remember Jeanette’s too, and now that one is failing to reach my memory bank. Oldtimers is setting in I think.
    BTW, my fillings only ache when I chew on foil. Don’t ask. 😆

  13. se7en said,

    Hi Nanners! Hope you and yours have a merry, merry Christmas! Hugs!

    Did you change the protected post password? Mine doesn’t work no mo’ =(

    🙂

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